I was having a conversation with a friend about a recent unprecedented string of good luck. I'd gone out and opened the first woman who really grabbed my attention. I'd spoken to her, gone on an instant date, and 'sealed the deal.'

Following this success, I opened another woman – 48 hours after I’d met the previous woman. She was the first woman I’d opened that day, too. We went on an instant date...

It was uncanny.

Upon reflection, I’d followed a gut instinct honed over several years. My friend and I agreed that, on average, really hot girls often don’t convert - they're elusive. So, how did I have such consistent luck with beautiful women?

I think it comes down to subconscious calculations, intuition, and feel. This is honed through a lot of experience with women. Let me explain. On the surface, a large SMV gap would suggest super low odds of 'success.' Let's say you’re a high 6 and she scrapes an 8. Most guys struggle to get a woman whose SMV is equal to their own.

So what subconscious calculations, as an 'advanced' guy, does my brain make?
Externally, visually, there are a few constants. For one, I’m most attracted to women who are between 1.60 to 1.70 meters tall (+/- 4 centimeters). I’m 1.95. Logically, some women value a man’s height. OK, so that helps counteract the fact that she is facially far more attractive than I am. But, I think more importantly, her being just my type height wise peaks MY INITIAL ATTRACTION FOR HER. She feels what you feel. So my flirting will reach peak intent (she’ll feel it through my eye contact and altered voice pitch).

Also, purely from a visual standpoint, it’s uncanny how often I can gauge a woman’s personality just from her eyes. As well as the way she holds herself. I get along better with introverted women, than extroverted women. It’s been said – and I believe it – that introverts have different eyes to extroverts. We’re talking about expressiveness here (not the shape, or anything). I can sense if she’s a woman who spends time deep in thought, and has a rich inner world. It’s something you can’t quite put into words.

The women I'm subconsciously drawn to will also have a natural softness and submission in their eyes. As if they’d have a hard time getting angry and expressing it. This is in stark contrast to the challenging, harder eyes of many extroverted girls.

There may also be a looks-based trigger for women on a subconscious level, aside from my height. Many women have told me I've got a nice nose. So, often a woman will be stunningly gorgeous, but her nose is not. My nose may be ‘better looking.' Of course, this is only one feature, but it is something I’ve noticed. It’s a pattern.

It's not always the case, but on a primal level perhaps our brains make some kind of calculation as to how a future child might turn out (?). Our genes may impact our decisions on a subconscious survival level: are our genes complementary for healthy, successful offspring?

Another thing that could be at play is imprinting – for guys and girls. I had a gorgeous teacher at school, and I find myself drawn to women who have a similar face, subconsciously. It’s not always the case, but it made me ponder whether this is a common phenomenon. Women are naturally followers, so it would make sense that certain male role models would imprint on them, both through behavioral cues, but also to some extent visually. For example, a woman who’s brothers and father are bodybuilders might subconsciously be drawn to such men, and if you’re a bodybuilder you might sense this from her glance as you pass her on the street. Body builders make up a small percentage of the overall population, so maybe your face would not have to be as pretty as another, skinnier guy's.

So, once I’ve opened, I’ve ALREADY got a good sense of whether the woman is going to make me more attracted through her behavior and personality. At this point, a beginner may have no clue about any of this. They just hope ‘pretty girl, please don’t reject me’ as they approach a random woman without my visual filter.

I see it as a two-way exchange. It’s like making a cake that requires two main ingredients. If the inter-personal interaction becomes a case of trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, then it’s doomed from the start. Especially if you’re trying to get women significantly better looking than yourself. Many of us have had an experience where we felt we didn’t have great chemistry with a woman, but seduced her anyway (and the experience was fine, but not particularly memorable). With a woman who is higher SMV, you cannot do this. You cannot ‘sham’ it.

When women say they care the most about a man’s personality, I absolutely 100% believe them. It’s just uncanny how often mine and the woman’s brain wiring seem to match when I’m ‘playing out of my league.’ Thinking back to the most stunning women I’ve dated, their jobs even pointed to this. One was an economic analyst, one was a front-end developer in IT, another worked in e-commerce. All beautiful.

This tells me several things. a. they were all analytical, more introverted, and less people focused than others. Like me. Also, when I saw them on the street, I must have picked up on some kind of rebellious vibe. Two of the women had belly piercings, and two of them had tattoos. For all I know, they could have given off pheromones that signaled higher-than-average libido. This may also have amped up my sexuality and made me more attractive. I’ve been told by several women that my eyes are attractive – referring to the way I showed intent through them.

Some women will give a guy leeway if he’s just a very cool guy. I'm sure you can recall a girl at school who wasn’t the best looking, but who all of the guys were obsessed with. There was just something about her. She dressed sexier than all of the other girls, and she had this sensual eye contact even when she was talking about mundane things. It didn’t really make total logical sense why she was more attractive than other, prettier girls. Guess what, women have experiences like this too.

I think what’s going on in a woman’s mind when she ‘accepts’ a guy worse looking than her is this: it’s like pulling on the lever of a slot machine. As a guy, you watch as each reel spins. You wait to see what symbol each reel will end up displaying. Now, with a woman who is far better looking, the final picture needs to be this: the reels have stopped spinning, and each symbol is a 7. You’ve WON BIG!

It may mean something like this: a. Your genes, visually, were somehow complimentary. b. Crucially, you were compatible on a brain wiring and personality level - like a glove fits a hand. c. The effect of a. and b. had an effect on you, as the guy, that amped up your attraction for her and subsequently made you more attractive to her. 777! See how this would allow the situation to escalate, and your surface level looks level would have less of a bearing?

The lock has been unlocked by the big win key!

The caveat, perhaps, should be that there’s also d. you have ‘it.’ What is ‘it’?: the ability to be calm and treat a girl who is ‘out of your league’ the same way you would treat a girl who’s ‘in your league.' It’s an energy that women subconsciously pick up on, and do react to. How calm and cool you are around her will make or break the jackpot win.

A good analogy is to think of this in terms of street racing: the game Need for Speed. You have levels where you have to win even though your car is the worst car, on paper. How do you do this? Well, for a start, you improve the engine. You make sure the car reaches it's maximum capacity. A Peugeot is not a Porsche, but can be pimped out. Then you accelerate as aggressively as possible on the straights, using up all of the nitro in the tank. You break to the point of almost destroying the tires in corners. You RED LINE the car!

Because you're a skilled driver, and you’re redlining, you may actually win.

Think of your laser eye contact (inspired by the woman) as the nitro you’d use in NFS to win. If you were talking to a hot woman who was out of your league, but a-c (as previously mentioned) were not in place, you’d be unable to hit the nitro. You’d be unlikely to win. You can't win at that level by shamming it without the nitro.

You’ll have to figure out which kinds of girls you’ll have a better shot with, and which ones you should spend less time on. A basic one to start with is to consider what archetypes respond well to you, and which ones inspire you. Consider basic indicators beyond superficial looks, such as introverted vs extroverted (the square peg and the round hole).

Talk to more women. Learn to tell them apart. Develop your own key to unlocking the ones who're 'out of your league.'