Look at flirting and dating on the most zoomed-out level possible. Do this regularly. I've noticed that a lot of guys get caught up on the small intricacies of flirtation. For example, I get questions about how to convince a woman who is unresponsive over text, to come out on a date. It seems to be a common belief that if only you do the correct kind of optimal texting, a woman will change her tune. What's missing isn't good text game. It isn't that you forgot to do a gambit. It's very simple, actually. You can't answer a simple question: is she attracted to you?

On a zoomed-out level, you need to keep trying to answer this one simple question: is she attracted? When you're speaking face-to-face, you have to study the girl's eyes. Probe with your own eyes – 'eye fuck,' to put it crassly. Speak with a flirtatious tone of voice. Give a wry cocky smile from time to time. Think of yourself as a naughty little boy, who's stolen a cookie from a cookie jar, and is hiding it behind his back. As he speaks to a grown-up, he self-amuses by pretending the theft hasn't happened. He speaks like everything's normal, but can't quite contain the mischief. Do you get this analogy?

You communicate with women on two levels when you flirt. On one level, you're getting to know them, while being playful with your words. Being charismatic. But you also, critically, communicate on a second level: the subconscious, arousal level. Be the naughty boy hiding a stolen cookie behind his back – except, layer in sexual intent. The sexual intent is your stolen cookie 'secret.' The grown-up will sense that the child's done something childish and naughty. A woman should sense your manly sexual intent.

How would the adult, man version of the cheeky cookie boy behave? That is how you should behave. Let your thoughts about the woman shine through your eyes. This is the natural, biological part that should be the easiest thing to do – it's hardwired. The thing is, you need to be relaxed to be able to be aroused. So there is a catch-22 here: if you weren't nervous, you would show clear intent. Desensitization through repeated socializing leads to reduced nerves, which allows you to focus on exuding intent.

Once your intent is in place, things will become a lot easier. The outer stuff like the things you say are largely there to free up head space so you can be relaxed. It let's you focus on you subconscious arousal and outward expression of this.

I think that, in reality, a lot of guys will take a woman's number, while actually in a non-relaxed state. Especially if she is very attractive. What's going on there is the woman may have enjoyed the chat, and respected what you did. She gave her number as an act of goodwill. However, it was not a receipt of attraction.

You need to get in tune with your own mind and body. When you are relaxed, you are able to look at a woman as you speak to her and feel your own eyes expand. There's a spectrum when it comes to 'eye fucking' (it may not always feel like a hit of crack) but the woman needs to receive even just a mild dose of 'eye fucking.' I call this channeling of sexual energy through your eyes 'using the force.'

The force makes you lock gazes with the woman. When this happens, a woman's eyes grow wide and their pupils grow larger (like anime eyes). Their eyes will look like the surface of a lake glistening in the sun. She may stop blinking, and suddenly have the face of someone with a mental disability (there, and simultaneously not) – riveted on you. THIS is what attraction looks like. You should also be able to feel a sort of charge.

Sometimes the attraction is more on the subtle side, and will likely grow in power during a date. However, there needs to be some BASELINE ATTRACTION before you take a woman's number, during the face-to-face interaction. This takes the guess work out of whether a woman will respond to your texts! If she's attracted, there will have to be a pretty strong reason for her NOT to respond. If there's no attraction, she won't come out on a date. In that sense, it's simple.

Work on the second level of communication. Get in touch with your body and mind. Showing intent, to allow attraction, is the one crucial move you MUST do. REAL attraction must be established.